Vera Lauder

Funeral Service: Wed 15th Jun 2022

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Peacefully on Thursday 2nd June 2022, at St Margaret’s Care Home in her 93rd year, Vera Lauder (nee) Grieve, beloved wife of the late Eck, loving mum of Brian, Alex and Helen, mother-in-law to Doreen, Pearl and Peter. Much loved Nana to Paula, Kerrie, Steven, Ryan, Chloe and Matthew, and dearly loved great-grandma of 7. Service on Wednesday 15th June at Borders Crematorium, Melrose at 12 noon, followed by a Memorial Service in Beattie’s Acorn Chapel at 1.00 pm, to which all family and friends are invited. Family flowers only please, with donations, if desired towards Alzheimers Scotland.

Cremation Service


Borders Crematorium

Date & Time

12:00pm Wed 15th Jun 2022

Funeral Service


Beattie's Acorn Chapel
John Beattie & Sons
Weensland Road

Date & Time

1:00pm Wed 15th Jun 2022

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John Beattie & Sons Funeral Directors

Weensland Road

01450 377 284

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