James Hay Graham

Cremation Service: Wed 8th Jun 2022

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Sadly, on Sunday 22nd May 2022, at the Borders general Hospital. James, much loved husband of the late Muriel, devoted dad to Wendy and Fiona, Papa to Ashley and Rachel, brother to Kenneth and a dear friend to many. Service to take place at Borders Crematorium, Melrose, on Wednesday 8th June, at 11am, to which all family and friends are respectively invited.

Cremation Service


Borders Crematorium

Date & Time

11:00am Wed 8th Jun 2022

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Maureen & Gerald wrote

25th May 2022

So sorry to read this James was a lovely person and will be sorely missed our condolences to all the Family

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